To love someone is first to confess the truth:
If I keep doing what I’m doing, it’s going to result in what I’ve already done.
I now need your help to nudge me, pock me, and pull me into places that I otherwise would not have gone, so I can get a different result, because if I continue down the same path I’m going to continue to be stuck in my ways.
I might do “that” really well, but I want more than that now. I’ve done “that” too many times and now there’s an opportunity for something new.
That’s why I have to trust you.
It won’t be easy though because it’s the same kind of trust as when someone says “you look great in that photo”, but you’re so used to seeing yourself in a mirror, that when you see yourself from the perspective of everyone else, you just can’t stand it.
It’s just one of those things I have to trust, that someone can see something in me that I can’t see.
So I know if I trust you enough, to see, hear, or feel something that I’m too familiar with to recognise, then I have everything I need to grow with you.
without growing apart from you, or change without it scaring you away
Because ultimately, if we do this right, you will have played a major role in who I become, and the same is true for my impact on you.